I recently went to an exclusive singles party. I was there on business, and I’m not sure what my boyfriend was doing there, but it was wonderful to have him around – he works in Europe and is away for long periods of time. It was a good party; the music was great, the food excellent and the crowd classy.

A little over an hour into the party, I noticed that everyone was gravitating towards a corner of the room. I couldn’t immediately see what was happening from where we were sitting, so I got up to take a look. Two women, one blonde white and the other black were on the dance floor doing their thing and around them were what looked like all the handsome men from the party, except mine of course who was sitting in another corner talking and laughing excitedly. . – I have what I can say.

Regardless, these two women were obviously enjoying themselves and having the time of their lives. But what I found quite interesting was that both women were what society calls “plus size” and not exactly the “plus size” type of model. They were two normal-looking women laughing and flirting playfully with the male moths, dazzled by their glow. They got all the male attention from guys we’d normally think wouldn’t be attracted to women their size, especially when there were plenty of other petite, hot women in the room.

What was his secret? Two words – SEXUAL MAGNETISM

Whether you are aware of it or not, the way you view yourself sexually affects every aspect of your life. It affects how you walk down the street, how you talk to your boss, how you respond to stress, how you relate to others, and even how you pursue success.

People with a poor sexual self-image tend to overcompensate in areas where they are most confident. They are on a constant drive for achievement and external approval. They often try to belittle or downplay their sexual expectations and tend to resist acknowledging or expressing their emotions. Extroverts overproject and exaggerate their sexual desirability. They try to assert themselves and their presence by doing everything in a “larger than life” style. But his “macho” or “sexy” self-image is the opposite of what happens on the outside.

People blessed with enormous charm and sexual charisma, on the other hand, don’t flaunt it in low necklines or butt-hugging jeans. They may not even have a charismatic personality and are not necessarily seductive, but wherever they go, men and women alike fall under the spell of their seductive aura. They attract the opposite sex like bees to honey. It’s just hard to resist getting a discreet look, and sometimes we don’t even know why. These people do not appear to age, and race does not influence the power of their magnetism. They command attention, affection and respect without asking for it. It seems that they are really happy.

So what is this mystical thing we call sexual magnetism?

Sexual magnetism is often confused with “sexy” or “exotic” -whatever these words mean- and that is why many people think that it is something you do, something you buy with money, something a partner gives you. sexual or even something you get from traveling to some ‘exotic’ part of the world.

Sexual magnetism is not about a perfect body, bigger breasts, or a bigger male organ. If you don’t believe me, tell someone you think they have big breasts or a big organ that you don’t think is that big anyway and watch your self-image plummet. Not to mention, there are some men and women who are less gifted in the looks department but ooze sexual magnetism.

Sexual magnetism has nothing to do with the clothes you wear or the type of car you drive. Wearing a little secret number under your clothes or driving a fancy car can help boost your sexual confidence, but only when you already have it. Take off your underwear (eventually you have to take them off anyway) or the car and all you’re left with is the same insecure, inadequate little me.

Sexual magnetism is not something you get in Mexico, Thailand, or on an African safari. I know some of you are thinking who are you kidding, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie got their African “juju”. You can go to these “exotic” places with an uptight, stubborn, and repressed attitude about sex and come back even more confused and paranoid that the “sexual opening” you found there will have shaken your beliefs about sexuality and sex.

Sexual magnetism is not about learning sexual techniques or bedroom tricks, although knowing what to do in the bedroom, like underwear or sports, can boost your sexual confidence, is not what sexual magnetism is about. Sexual magnetism doesn’t even necessarily have to do with sex.

Sexual magnetism is more than sex appeal. People with great looks, incredible talent, immense power, extreme wealth, above average intelligence, and even notorious “bad boys” may have sex appeal, but they don’t necessarily have sexual confidence and don’t necessarily have sexual magnetism. .

Sexuality is about general feelings of well-being. From the moment we are born to the moment we die, we are sexual beings with sexual bodies, whether or not we are engaged in a sexual act or behavior. Sexuality is a natural, healthy, and lifelong part of being human. It is an integral and powerful influence on our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.

Sexual magnetism is about being COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SEXUAL BODY AND SEX ROLE. It is the dynamic, free and spontaneous response of your own inner man or woman. It’s about power, and that power comes from knowing who you really are, what’s best for you, and what you can bring to any encounter, whether it’s sexual, social, or business.

Sexual magnetism is about being COMFORTABLE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX. It is about going into any situation knowing that you are ‘rock’, expressing your opinion knowing that it will be highly valued by others, asking for what you want without fear of rejection or failure. It’s the ability to really let go and experience life. It is about being fully present in body, mind and spirit, moment to moment.

Sexual charisma is like a MAGNET. If you have it, you will attract people to you.

So how do you get sexual charisma?

Develop a sexually positive attitude

Unlearn your guilt about your sexual body and your sexual desires. Give yourself permission to really celebrate what’s inside of you and develop the emotional and social skills you need to be able to share your true self with your sexual partner and the rest of the world.

Know your sexual body

The greatest insight you can have when it comes to sexuality is how your body responds to its sexual, social, or business environment. If you have been living in your head, go back to your body and inhabit it completely. It is not what the body can do for you but what you can do with your body that gives you the sexual magnetism you crave.

Develop your own individual style

Your sexual magnetism is a unique and individualized expression of yourself. To know that you are uniquely and wonderfully created is to say, “I like who I am, and I know you will like me, too.” Develop the kind of attitude that makes people excited just thinking about talking to you or seeing you again.

Be spontaneous and unpredictable.

Spontaneity and unpredictability are the soul of sexual charisma and it is what keeps other people fascinated by you. Work on developing spontaneity in your emotional manifestations by taking actions at every moment that are prompted by your inner conscience. Stop conceiving, intriguing, pretending and living with distrust in yourself. Take advantage of your subconscious and free your imagination. Let your hair down and discover your wildest side.

learn to enjoy life

Many of us are too rushed to enjoy life, too confused to be simple, too rich to have enough, too worried to be healthy, too ungrateful to be happy, too fearful to love, and too controlling to be free. Your sexual magnetism depends on your ability to let go and be in the moment. But to enjoy the moment you have to learn to appreciate it. Develop an attitude of gratitude despite your current circumstances.

Be interested in other people

Sexual magnetism isn’t about a superior attitude or blowing your own horn, it’s about listening and making other people feel comfortable talking about themselves. Work on being someone who is interested instead of worrying about being interesting.

surround yourself with good friends

There are few things in this world that can make you feel like a million bucks – a good friend is one of those things. A good friend is that person who gives you the courage and strength to go out and conquer the world. He cultivates many different friendships with men and women, especially singles. Having lots of friends of the opposite sex is a great way to learn about the opposite sex, it’s better than anything you read in books that are just other people’s opinions.

Enhance your spiritual awareness

The journey towards your sexual embodiment is also the journey towards your spiritual enlightenment. Sex and the spirit are inseparable. Don’t focus on developing one and ignore the other. When you neglect one, the other will be distorted.

Start vibrating this powerful magnetic energy and watch as people suddenly start to notice and gravitate towards you.