Many people with negative emotional habits are the same ones that impact your life in a bad way. You just have to mix and match these, but the effects are the same: reinforcing all of your worst emotional habits as well, which is a bad place to be.

To avoid dealing with those people who drag you down, or at least to minimize interaction with them, you must learn to identify the 4 types of toxic people in your life and then decide to put distance between yourself and them. It doesn’t have to be a complete and total exclusion of them from your life, you just need to allow yourself some distance so that their negativity doesn’t affect you.

Often times, this simple solution does wonders for de-stressing and clearing your mind and life, as a little distance can go a long way. Basically, they are still in your life. You still talk to them from time to time, but they are not so near and dear that they end up dragging you down. At the very least, you’re not so connected to them that you get caught up in this downward emotional spiral.

With that being said, now let’s take a look at the 4 personality types that are probably dragging you down as we speak and keeping you from achieving greatness in your life.

Toxic Personality Type #1: The Black Hole

This person has deep, deep emotional needs. They are very needy people. However, you can’t tell from his appearance. Some seem very successful. Some are very attractive. However, when they open their mouths to someone they trust, it’s all about them. It is about how they have lost, what they need, how everything in life is against them, etc.

It’s like no matter what you do, or how much you support them, it’s just not enough. Even if you keep giving and supporting, it’s not enough because that’s how needy they are. They are black holes. All they know and all they seem to be able to do is absorb positive energy.

So do yourself a favor and stay away from black holes. I’m not saying you should cut them off, but don’t get too close. Learn when to say no. After all, we all have a life to live, and it’s not worth sacrificing for people who don’t care about theirs to begin with.

Toxic Personality Type #2: The Judge

Do you have a friend or acquaintance who constantly puts everyone and anything and any situation into neat little boxes? This may not seem so negative at first. However, this habit of yours can be quite bad because life is not black and white.

When those people see you, they may say “you’re a loser” or, conversely, they may say “oh, you’re a winner”. No matter what kind of label these people put on you, it’s often easy to be swayed by their labels.

It’s tempting for some people to think they’re losers (or winners) when faced with this kind of judgment.

But what if I told you that both labels are equally toxic? Why, you might ask…

Well, it’s because people are people. We change all the time. We have different sizes. We have different aspects. We have so many sides and reducing someone to a one word description really strips them of their complexity (ie humanity).

If you tell a friend that she is ugly or that she is dumb, you are reducing that person’s being to a single attribute. Maybe they are just being stupid at that point in their lives, but for the rest of their lives they act like complete and total geniuses. So does it make sense then to write them off as idiots?

And the same goes for physical appearance or income mobility or the ability to increase one’s net worth.

Unfortunately, none of these nuances matter to the judge. This person derives enormous comfort from making his world as black and white as possible. Everything is extreme. Either someone is a loser or someone is a winner. There is no middle ground. There is no medium.

Stay away from these people, too. Again, you don’t necessarily have to stop being friends with them, but it achieves some kind of distance because, sooner or later, you start to adopt that black-and-white mentality, and this is a very corrosive mentality to live your life. . The world really isn’t black and white. And it’s not gray either. It has many colors, figuratively speaking. It’s so rich, so vibrant, and so beautiful that you just can’t see it in black or white.

Toxic Personality Type #3: The Stylish Hoarder

The style hoarder is a person who looks at the lives of different people and tries to find trends or styles that they can collect. When you talk to this person, they are not really interested in you. They couldn’t care less about your hopes, dreams, fears, aspirations, insecurities. None of that matters. Instead, they watch what you’re doing. They are obsessed with all kinds of trends. These can be technology trends, fashion trends, or any other trend really. Regardless, they are things that other people are doing.

They then use this as a sort of grid when they judge you, saying, “Oh, this person, does he think this way? Does he share that trend? Does he have that fashion sense that’s kind of hip?” ?”

That is its value to you. Basically, you vindicate their judgments regarding trends because they’re drawing a great sense of their self-worth and ego from it. They feel good about being able to spot these trends. They feel good about being part of the right crowd or people thinking of the right ideas.

However, these people are usually very superficial. They collect. They catch. On the contrary, the motivation is very superficial. It’s really about feeling good, feeling substantial and worthy. Unfortunately, this is all on a surface level. They don’t really have the core conviction, or the essence of the trends that obsess them so much. And when you hang out with these people, you also become superficial. You start to divide people based on where they are in terms of politics, cultural sensitivity, ideology, personal style.

Fortunately, human beings are more than the sum of their parts. You can take a person and undress them in different layers, but guess what! When you put all those layers together, they don’t add up to that person. Something missing, something is missing.

Perhaps we can call this the soul. Perhaps we can call this the essence of that person. The truth is, however, that you can’t just strip people to these trends and reassemble them into a whole person. You missed the point. You missed the person.

This is how stylish hoarders think. This is how they see the world. They see it as layer upon layer of things that they can reconfigure, recombine, slice and dice, mix and match.

If you spend enough time with these people, you become like them. Unfortunately, that kind of thinking fails when it comes to reality because ultimately people aren’t like that. We are worth more than the sum of our parts. We are not just thin and superficial layers.

Toxic Personality Type #4: The Troll

Trolls are annoying and you probably already know that. However, the problem is that they are not always obvious. In fact, one of the most common forms of trolling involves flattery.

There are people who think 180 degrees against any point of view or opinion that you have expressed. They couldn’t disagree with you more, but you can’t tell from their response. It seems that they are supporting you. It might even seem like they’re egging you on. However, what they are really doing is trolling you because they don’t agree. Whatever opinion you shared does not align with what they really think and believe.

So why do they do it then?

For the laughs. They get a (sick, I might add) sense of satisfaction from being complete and total liars. But the problem is that trolls eventually reprogram themselves, and that wouldn’t be a bad thing if humans hadn’t been designed to mentally and unconsciously influence each other. But they have been designed that way, and this is one of the reasons why it is never recommended to be around trolls.

It’s not uncommon for a troll to have so much fun getting people to agree to things they themselves hate because it makes them hate the person or ridicule them in their minds. Eventually, they get so caught up in their decision that they no longer know what the truth is.

The goal of your game is to get a raise or a reaction from people. They are not really interested in whether things are right or wrong, or whether things are right or wrong and unfair. Instead, it’s just the emotional thrill that they’re having.

“This person agrees with me, he is a complete and utter idiot and bigot. I get it!” This is how a troll thinks. And they may seem harmless, but who do you think pays the highest price? The person who is honest with his opinion, however unpopular or unpleasant, or the one who egged him on?

If you engage in this behavior, you are really trading with your soul, and by soul I am not talking about some almost mystical component of your life. I’m talking about your integrity. You’re basically lying. The worst part of all of this is that the lie eventually filters down and becomes you. It becomes part of you. You get to a point where you don’t even know which side is up.

That’s how confused trolls are. They become a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy. It all comes down to feeding insecurities because they are very insecure on one level or another. That’s why they enjoy making people say things they hate, or say things they really want to say but can’t. Through their behavior, encouragement, and underhanded tactics, they get people to say things they wish they could say or things they hate.

And just like the 3 types of people above, dating trolls also brings out the worst in you. Plus, you end up being friends with someone who doesn’t appreciate you for who you are. And if you’re not careful, sooner or later you end up being like them.